Blog-stab-bing--verb; play on the word "back-stabbing"
1. Using information and/or commentary on someone's blog (usually out of context or in a misconstrued way) as fodder for gossip and backbiting about them. 2. Reading a blog for the purpose of fueling your own dislike of that person. (I just made this term up, and the definition, but it gets the point across.)
Perhaps I am naive, but I was under the mistaken impression that most people read the blogs of people they consider friends--that when you read someone's blog it is because you care about that person and want to stay in touch with what is going on in their life. I have LOVED blogging--it has helped me make new friends as well as reconnect with old friends. But, I have heard rumors of the possible down side of blogging. I have learned the hard way that there are people, and these people are considered ADULTS (at least legally, anyway) who "blogstab." These types of petty people have most likely been like this since, oh I would guess, JUNIOR HIGH, but now they just have better technology than note passing.
Despite my initial protective instinct, I have decided NOT to take my blog private. I have loved keeping it open so that people can find me easily. I have always been open and honest on this blog about my own imperfections and insecurities, operating under the assumption that I was among friends. And while I have received so much love and support, I will definitely be more mindful in the future and possibly protect myself a little more.
It has not been my intent to show off how "awesome" I am on my blog. If you read my blog and you leave thinking I am awesome, that is okay with me. But, if you read my blog and you don't like what you read. . .feel free to stop reading at anytime and return to the blogs of your friends (that is, if you have any left after talking so much crap about them.) So, the bottom line of this post is: take me for what I am, or leave me--no, seriously, please leave me!
12 comments:
I'm not sure what happened, but I wanted to tell you that I really enjoy reading your blog. I feel like I've gotten to know you & your kids better through it. I often identify with the things you say when you feel down or frustrated as well. Keep on writing girl!
I am glad you decided not to block your blog. I like the personal stuff because even though we communicate often I still hear new things on your blog. Don't change a thing because I love you for what you are!
This is a new term I was unaware of. How frustrating. I'm sorry whatever-it-is happened. Pretty ridiculous that we have to worry about that stuff. I hope you still keep it honest and open. That's what I count on from you. :)
Love ya!
I'm sorry that something like that happened to you! Maybe it's good that I am so ovlivious to such things.
I'm good with a crowbar if you want me to take anyone down.
*sigh* Why do they always have to ruin it for everyone else? I'm sorry whatever happened. I saw on a tv show once a girl's parents telling her that pple make rumors and gossip because they are really jealous of whomever inspired them. I can see how that would be true. But in my own experience it is difficult to brush off hurtful things and just think that person is jealous of you. Anyway, I love your blog and your down-to-earth posts!!!
Ugh! The frustrations of modern technology. Keep writing! I love reading about your darling family -struggles and all - because it makes me remember that we are all experiencing similar things and that I shouldn't have a pity party for myself.
I love your new word and definition. I think it should make it in the dictionary. I love reading your blog. I'm sorry for whatever happened.
I enjoy your blog as well. I feel like I've gotten to know you and your family better through it. I hope I don't run into this problem of blogstabbing. I would probably cry and stop. I hope you continue as you have.
I hear ya, sister. Had similar experiences but, having never been considered "awesome," I was pretty used to it outside the blogging world. I just charge those people more when they ask for a cake. ;)
I'm sorry tiff! I love you and I love reading your blog. I always think you're awesome after reading it. You are a good person, and I am sorry someone would do that to you.
Sorry for whatever happened! I love reading your blog and keeping updated on your life. If you go private, count me in!
I just came across your blog this morning, and I think your awesome to rise above whoever has been gossiping by still keeping your blog open. My name’s Gia… we don’t know each other but you have in a way inspired me.
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